EP 25: Terri Trespicio on Unfollowing Your Passion

On episode 25 for The School of Unlearning podcast, we are joined by author and entrepreneur, Terri Trespicio. Terri's new book, "Unfollow Your Passion" is a provocative inquiry into some of life's common assumptions. This podcast is filled with moments of unlearning about relationships, how we blindly inherent narratives that don't serve us and Terri argues that our best growth comes within our comfort zone, not outside of it. 

On this podcast you will learn: 

• Who has influenced Terri while she was growing up 
• How comedy has shaped Terri's voice 
• Why Terri maintains she is at her best when she allows for space in failure and growth
• Disappointing someone isn't the end of the world, seeking to always please is. 
• Why our innate drive for connection leads us to accept things that don't serve us. 
• Why its essential to decide who you will listen to and who you won't. 
• Terri's relationship with saying, "no", and why saying "no" doesn't always needs to come with an explanation. 
• How women have been influenced to always feel they need to be in a relationship, and why it's unfair to feel "less than" if you are single.
• What a "full body yes" feels like
• Why getting to a "yes" requires a lot of "no's". 
• Why saying "yes" when you don't need it, it's a recipe for drama. 
• Why drama is expensive in relationships and on teams. 
• Why "discomfort isn't a guarantee for growth, its a condition."  
• Real growth does not come outside of our comfort zone, despite what struggle/hustle culture tells us. 
• Terri urges us to expand our comfort zone so that we can live and work inside it. 
• Passion is an experience, not a state, it's not a talent and we need to stop seeking it all the time.
• Why our needy pursuit of passion is ironically draining us and largely, diverting us from the joy of living.  
• Terri on unlearning: "When you unlearn, its not a forgetting, its purposeful, learning is the acquisition of knowledge and application in the world, unlearning is amending, its what editing is to writing. Unlearning is the next step of knowledge."

Quotes from Terri: 

“As soon as you start to monetize something in order to legitimize it, you’ve lost it.”

"Passion is when energy is moving through you, where can you allow that to happen?

“The minute you get fixed and rigid about finding passion in one thing, you’ve killed your own vibe.” 

"Pay attention to where industry or the need to do a thing comes in. Beware of trying to sell or market every last ounce of passion you have.

 

To learn more about Terri Trespicio, click here. 

About Elisa: 

I am a Conscious Leadership Coach and host of The School of Unlearning Podcast. I coach leaders/executives and teams all over the world to shift their mindset. Together we move from serious to curious and from fear to love. 

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