The School Of Unlearning With Elisa Haggarty

EP 47: Justin Mulvaney on Patterns, Beliefs and Feelings

How is emotional literacy different than emotional intelligence? Why do we need both? Have you ever had the inkling that you may play some part in the relational drama you see unfolding at work or in relationships? Today on the podcast, we welcome Conscious Leadership and Executive Coach, Justin Mulvaney. Justin shares his origin story into coaching and the deep work he is doing on his end to play with the principles of Conscious Leadership. This episode is for anyone looking to better understand emotional intelligence and how to take radical responsibility for their lives.

Today we cover: 

• Justin’s early influences in nature and key influences
• The journey from tech industry to coaching 
• Why Justin chose The Conscious Leadership Group as the method he wanted to embrace and learn 
• What has changed Justin the most throughout his training with CLG and coaching clients over the past few years
• How Justin defines emotional intelligence 
• How and why the journey of embracing consciousness is messy and scary at times 
• How to examine reactive patterns and beliefs 
• How to feel your feelings to completion 

Justin Mulvaney is a conscious leadership and executive coach who helps leaders and leadership teams become more conscious, connected, and effective. He helps founders and leaders in technology and corporate environments identify and shift the patterns that hold them back and discover new ways of living and leading.

To learn more about Justin, click here: https://justinmulvaney.co

 

To learn more about Elisa and her work, visit www.elisamaryhaggarty.com and follow her on Instagram @thesoulpodcast and @elisamaryhaggarty 

EP 46: From Criticism to Creativity with Dr. Gay Hendricks

In this episode, Dr. Gay Hendrick brings his life and professional wisdom to the podcast and shows us how we can turn criticism into creativity. In one of the more powerful podcast episodes I've ever recorded, Gay helps empower us to understand that beyond name, form, career - we are pure consciousness and helps us understand how taking responsibility for our thoughts and habits can change our lives. Gay shares his breakthroughs early on in life and helps us connect the dots between generational trauma - and, what we can do about creating new generational patterns. 

Gay Hendricks, Ph.D., has been a leader in the fields of relationship transformation and bodymind therapies for more than 45 years. After earning his Ph.D. in counseling psychology from Stanford, Gay served as professor of Counseling Psychology at the University of Colorado for 21 years. He has written more than 40 books, including bestsellers such as Five Wishes, The Big Leap and Conscious Loving (co-authored with his co-author and mate for more than 35 years, Dr. Kathlyn Hendricks), both used as a primary text in universities around the world. His latest book, The Genius Zones and explores his breakthrough process to end negative thinking and live in true creativity.

Today we cover: 

• Gay’s early life influences, including his grandparents and how the months prior to his birth influenced his relationship to emotions, food and self. 
• Gay’s encounter with Ram Das in his early 20’s and how this planted seeds for continued growth 
• How Gay defines enlightenment 
• Gay shares why recommitment needs more press 
• The role of self-blame and criticism and how they color and block creativity 
• How we can nurture ourselves into creativity and expansion
• Why taking radical responsibility for your life isn’t about blame
• How taking responsibly is both invigorating and creative! 
• How do view each decade in clinical psychology 
• The role of our family’s generational trauma and experiences in our current lives 
• What congruence is and why it’s so important for aliveness
• Why emotions are essential for us to embrace who we really are
• Gay offers news ways to view emotions like anger and fear 
• What Gay is currently unlearning 

To learn more about Gay and Katie Hendricks, visit: https://hendricks.com

Elisa Haggarty is a Conscious Leadership Coach who works with leaders and organizations to break repeated drama patterns and create more skillful and joyful workplaces. To learn more about her work, visit: www.elisamaryhaggarty.com

 

 

 

EP 45: The Gift of Unpleasant Feelings and Emotional Mastery with Dr. Joan Rosenberg

Dr. Joan Rosenberg, the author of "90 Seconds to a Life You Love" joins us for episode 45 and shares part of her personal journey from childhood that inspired her to pursue emotional mastery. The desire for confidence, authenticity and belonging lies within our capacity to sit with both pleasant and unpleasant emotions and Joan Rosenberg PhD teaches us how to do that in this episode.  We review the Rosenberg Reset which lays out the steps towards emotional confidence and why congruence is so essential to our wellbeing. This podcast episode is ripe with insight, moments you won't want to miss and will leave you feeling more empowered to live life more fully. 

Joan I. Rosenberg, PhD, creator of Emotional Mastery™ and Emotional Mastery Training™, is a highly regarded expert psychologist, master clinician, trainer and consultant. As a cutting edge psychologist who is known as an innovative thinker, trainer and speaker, Joan has shared her life-changing ideas and models for emotional mastery, change and personal growth in professional and educational seminars, psychotherapy sessions and graduate psychology teaching.

https://drjoanrosenberg.com/joans-story/

We cover:

• Dr. Rosenbergs early childhood and how it shaped her sense of belonging 
• Why emotional confidence was something Dr. Rosenberg realized early on in life would help her wade through life’s ups and downs 
• Who her early influences were 
• The 90 second rule of emotions
• How we can make use of feelings and emotions 
• Why pleasant feelings/sensations are difficult to sit with 
• How we can practice the Rosenberg Reset to master unpleasant feelings 
• What type of pleasant feelings are difficult for people and why
• What a compliment really means and why it’s important to accept them 
• Grief and 3 recommended practices to work with it 
• The importance of congruence in our inner and outer worlds
• Why speaking up is the pathway towards emotional confidence 
• How and when Dr. Rosenberg recommends we speak up 
• Why insights usually follow expression 
• Grief: how to embrace the relationship even if the person has passed on 

Referenced: 

• Dr. Daniel Siegel 
• Katie and Gay Hendricks
• Dr. Jill Bolte Taylor's book, "A Stoke of Insight"  

Elisa Haggarty is a Conscious Leadership Coach and Organizational Consultant, click here to learn more about her work.  Follow The School of Unlearning on Instagram @thesoulpodcast. 

 

EP 44: On Women’s Hormone Health with Dr. Soyona Rafatjah

If you are confused about women's hormone health or what foods fuel inflammation, this podcast episode is for you. Dr. Soyona Rafatjah, a board certified Family Physician and the Founder of Prime Health in Denver, CO. joins us for episode 44 on The School of Unlearning podcast. We discuss her origin story and what fueled her to embrace the tenets of Functional and Integrative Medicine and why women's thyroid health is so importance for metabolic and immune function. Dr. Rafatjah helps us understand the power and importance of informed consent and how most medical science and pharmaceuticals are designed for men. Women's health involving stress management, toxins and dietary modifications are baseline for Dr. Rafatjah and this episode is filled with clinical gems.  

In this episode, we cover: 

• Soyona's origin story 
• Why Functional medicine is rooted in health outcomes vs sick care
• Why the thyroid is importance for women's health and why most doctor's don't run comprehensive labs
• The benefits of birth control for family planning
• Why birth control is being over prescribed and prescribed for the wrong reasons - how it can act as a bandaid for hormone health issues
• The importance of informed consent in women's health 
• What 3 foods fuel inflammation
• What foods calm inflammation 
• The root causes of depression and how to proactively work with brain health  
• How much protein a day women should aim for 
• Soy? What are the health benefits and risks and why to always aim for organic 
• What Dr. Raftajah is currently unlearning

You can learn more about Prime Health by visiting their website here.  Prime Health offers private and group Functional Medicine care to those in the Colorado area and select states for virtual care. 

 

Elisa Haggarty is a Conscious Leadership Coach and Organizational Consultant, click here to learn more about her work.  Follow The School of Unlearning on Instagram @thesoulpodcast. 

 

 

EP 43: The Power of Emotions with Kelsey Fox Bennett Boyd

If you’ve ever been told you are too sensitive or struggle to work with highly sensitive people - this podcast is for you. Kelsey and I explore the wisdom of our emotions and how we can work with them vs react blindly to them. Kelsey Fox Bennett Boyd is an Educator, Brain Gym Consultant and Author. Kelsey has been working with kids and adults, with a specialization in supporting the highly sensitive, for over a decade. In this podcast episode we introduce concepts like emotional regulation, bi-lateral stimulation and help make a case for highly sensitive people. Kelsey has written a book called, Arya & Everyone Else’s Feelings, which celebrates sensitivity and empowers readers to release the weight of other people’s feelings and feel safe and protected as they support those they care about most. Information on the kickstarter to support this invaluable book is below! 

On this episode we cover:

• Kelseys childhood and how it shaped her inner world
• What being a brain gym consultant is and why we all need one
• Kelseys health and life challenges early on that led her to embrace the mind/body connection
• What it means to be highly sensitive and how to work with it 
• The power and meaning of emotions 
• How to create new neural pathways 
• What emotional regulation is 
• What Kelsey is unlearning 

Links mentioned on the podcast:

Kelseys website: https://kelseyfoxbennettboyd.com/

Kickstarter for “Arya & Everyone Else’s Feelings”: https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/kfbb/arya-and-everyone-elses-feelings

Elisa Haggarty is a Conscious Leadership Coach and Organizational Consultant, click here to learn more about her work.  Follow The School of Unlearning on Instagram @thesoulpodcast. 

EP 42: On Art and Community with Catherine Haggarty

On episode 42 for The School of Unlearning I welcome with my twin sister, Catherine Haggarty. Catherine is a Brooklyn based artist, teacher, curator and co-founder of the NYC Crit Club. Catherine walks us through her days in childhood where she learned to make things from what she found and by embracing her imagination. We reminisce on our early memories together and the influence that our Mom and Dad had on us as found solace in art and in sports. It's a sweet episode that gets fiery at times as we discuss and challenge the narratives around art, education and entrepreneurship. 

This episode is dedicated to our late father, Jim Haggarty who lead with love and curiosity throughout our entire lives and to our Mom, who showed us what perseverance and enduring love looks like. 

We cover:

• Catherine's early influences growing up
• How Mom and Dad shaped and nudged each of us
• How language and words can shape and influence a young child 
• Unlearning how we box ourselves into identities too quickly and too soon in life 
• Why we should ditch the pursuit of "being good at things" 
• How Catherine found her voice in college and decided to pursue art school abroad in Rome, Italy. 
• The benefits for Catherine in not necessarily having a lot of models in the art world early on.
• Why making art will always be #1 for Catherine 
• What Catherine is actively unlearning these days

To learn more about Catherine's work, visit her site at www.catherinehaggarty.com 

Referenced during the podcast: 

Liv Aanrud, Artist

NYC Crit Club 

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Elisa is a Conscious Leadership Coach who works with leaders and professional athletes to empower them with the self-awareness and power skills to navigate change and break repeated drama patterns. 

Follow Elisa at @elisamaryhaggarty and visit her visit at www.elisamaryhaggarty.com 

EP 41: Good For A Girl with Lauren Fleshman

Lauren Fleshman joins us today and it’s rich and warm conversation that carries an enduring message of hope for the future of sports. Lauren has coined the phrase, “the performance wave” which helps young women going through their menstrual cycle and normal hormonal changes to understand and even embrace the ebbs and flows of their performance. Lauren encourages her readers through her book to understand that if they stay the course and listen to their bodies needs, the best is yet to come. Lauren Fleshman shares what she Is actively unlearning and highlights her first book, which is a NY Times best seller, “Good for A Girl: A Woman running in a Man’s World.” 

Show notes: 

• How Lauren’s childhood in LA influenced her life 
• The most influential people in Lauren’s life and how they shaped her sense of self 
• What finding your “race weight” meant for young athletes and how the “diet culture” shaped hormone health, mental health and performance 
• What pisses Lauren off about the sports culture and women’s health 
• Lauren presents the notion of “the performance wave” as it relates to younger women going through natural processes such as menstruation
• Why reclaiming your body and running for one’s self is so important to Lauren 
• How the “athlete mindset” can both help and hider people post career as they find ways
• The role that capitalism plays in repressing feelings
• Lauren’s advice to women
• How Lauren defines unlearning 

Mentioned on the podcast: 

Kate Fagans episode 18

Books by Kara Goucher and Alison Diser’s book, “Running while Black.” 

 

Elisa is a Conscious Leadership Coach and Organizational Consultant, click here to learn more about her work.  Follow The School of Unlearning on Instagram @thesoulpodcast. 

EP 40: Finding the Shift with Disembodied Eating with Michelle Cleary, LSCW, SEP

Episode 40 on The School of Unlearning podcast features Michelle Cleary who is a licensed psychotherapist. Michelle brings a radical and essential framework to the world called, “The Shift”. Michelle has battled what she calls “disembodied eating” for much of her life and shares how we can all begin to rethink and reframe what society has called “disordered eating”. Her approach in “The Shift” is to teach practices and tools that empower people to come back to their bodies, to inquire and make friends with their habits and build a new relationship to themselves.

We cover: 

• Michelle’s path in facing adverse childhood trauma and how she experienced disembodied eating 
• How we have a culture of “departure” from the present moment and how that impacts our nervous systems and habits. 
• What disembodied is vs disordered eating 
• What role the nervous system plays in disembodied eating 
• How important co-regulation is in health and specifically in breaking patterns that cause harm. 
• Michelle’s radical approach to helping people embrace a new way of thinking and embracing their eating habits. It all begins with a return to the self, the body - a coming home of sorts that allows each person to stand firmly in their power. 

References: 

“Good for a Girl” by Lauren Freshman

Peter Levine and his research in Trauma 

For more on Michelle and her "Find the Shift" program, click here: www.findtheshift.com 

Elisa is a Conscious Leadership Coach and Organizational Consultant, click here to learn more about her work.  Follow The School of Unlearning on Instagram @thesoulpodcast. 

 

EP 39: Caring Leadership with Heather Younger

This episode is a personal deep dive into Heather Younger’s rich and dynamic life experience and how she helps leaders and companies embrace tactics and skills to improve the employee experience. Heather leads with authenticity and staying attuned to the needs of her client and her audience. Heather is a force of good in the corporate world and brings her life and professional experience to The School of Unlearning. 

We cover: 

• Heather’s core influences growing up and how they shaped her
• Why Heather feels so strongly in fostering belonging and inclusion 
• How connection is the foundation for all speaking events and corporate success
• Heather’s shift from law to corporate people development 
• How Heather views leadership and employee experience in the corporate world 
• How Heather walks the walk - leading with presence 
• What role paying attention and noticing has to do with relationships 
• Heather’s advice on professionals looking to sharpen awareness
• What Heather believes self-leadership is and how she embraces this concept 
• The power of specificity in human communication and feedback 
• Why listening as a skill is the foundation for everything 

For more on Heather, visit https://heatheryounger.com/books/

Elisa is a Conscious Leadership Coach and Organizational Consultant, click here to learn more about her work.  Follow The School of Unlearning on Instagram @thesoulpodcast. 

EP 38: Begin With The End with Marni Blank

In this episode with Marni Blank, we explore building community, grief and how planning for the end of life can be empowering for individuals and families. Marni brings immense life and business experience to the podcast and openly shares her career pivots and how she actively works to define success and alignment on her terms. Marni is a certified Death Doula and sheds light on her 7 step process that helps us create a holistic end of life planning. 

Follow Marni on Instagram @beginwith_theend and at www.marniblank.com 

You will learn:

• The early influences in Marni's life that led her into the realm of entrepreneurship 
• Marni's previous work in law and how this influenced her decision to begin begin a creative and entrepreneur 
• What a Death Doula is and how Marni sees her work as helpful for individuals and families 
• How Marni had to unlearn what success was and find a definition that aligned for her 
• The business that Marni started with her sister, Willa in NYC to help build community and what she has learned about running a business with family. 
• Marni helps us understand why we would want to begin thinking about end of life planning and what her 7 step process is to help people get their policies and logistics in order. 
• We also discuss how planning for end of life can be scary but it is also generous in nature. Grief gets by passed for many when they are in the weeds of logistics and paperwork and all of us can make space for grief.
• Marni helps us understand the blocks that get in our way of end of life planning and different ways we can think about it. 
• "How do you want to be remembered? What does legacy mean to you?" 
• Marni shares her thoughts on how can mange and process grief 

References: "The Wild Edge of Sorrow" by Francis Weller

Elisa is a Conscious Leadership Coach and Organizational Consultant, click here to learn more about her work.  Follow The School of Unlearning on Instagram @thesoulpodcast.